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The older you get, the harder it is to find new friends!
admin: Many people think that the older you get, the harder it is to find new friends. Do you agree with this or not? What is your opinion?
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Jane RRR): Unfortunately, I'd probably agree with this statement... The thing is, adult people don't tend to trust people the way children do, which makes it a lot more difficult to believe that this or that stranger can become your friend in the future. I would like to be wrong, actually .
Elena Geiko: There is something in what you say, Jane. It's never too late to find a soulmate though
Jane RRR): Just sometimes it seems that true friends can be found among those people only that you have known for years. I wonder if it is still possible to keep making friends after turning 25?
Elena Geiko: And what is 'a true friend'?
Jane RRR): That's quite hard to answer, actually:) Well, I would say that 'true friends' do enjoy each other's company... And besides, thay remain interested in each other's lives and ready to help even when circumstances prevent them from meeting (e.g., when they stop being classmates or colleagues, etc.).
Elena Geiko: Jane RRR) ïèøåò: I wonder if it is still possible to keep making friends after turning 25? It hasn't been a long time since I turned 25, yet I don't think I've made any true friends since then... I met my husband when I was turning 25 though
Coordinator Zhanna: In my humble coordinator’s turn, I’d like to point out that the older you get the more u can judge a friends "truthness". U are not satisfied with how things are anymore and, accordingly, ur demands rocket up. U fail to take things as they used to be for granted and tend to notice demerits rather than virtues. In a word, u ask for more than u did when a child and u face that the folks around u are pretty fallible. U just lack the purity of a child’s perception (I can’t but agree with Jane here =)). However, I’ve made quite a few friends being over 25 and I honestly believe that those who stay by our side ready to bear u change into whosoever u`ve decided to turn into (either a butterfly or a snail =)) accepting u entirely and not benefiting from any metamorphosis in u, are obviously TRUE... and, in my opinion, it’s not a matter of age. True people are so few and they’re always like blessings.
Jane RRR): Coordinator Zhanna ïèøåò: I’ve made quite a few friends being over 25 That's amazing... Could you share what helped you to meet your new friends? Did you click because of some common interests, or did you get in touch by chance?
Coordinator Zhanna: I would say, mostly by a HAPPY CHANCE!! I consider it DESTINY.
Jane RRR): Well... There must be some truth in this 'fatalistic' approach... Still, don't you think we 'shape' our destiny to some extent?
Elena Geiko: We surely do. They say that only dead fish go with the flow.
Coordinator Zhanna: No objections, ladies!!! Agreed. I guess we shape our Destiny with our personality, strivings, aspirations, dreams, desires and certainly with a rebellion against the FLOW itself =) Just go ahead, stand OUT and in a blink of an eye u`ll encounter ur OUTSTANDING Destiny!
Napoleonchik: I totally disagree with the opinion in the first post. In my opinion, it depends on a person. If you are an open person you'll get as many friends as you want. For me it was harder to make friends in my childhood, because nobody was interested in things that were most exciting for me. And now (with a little help from the Internet) I've got a lot of friends across the country who will give me a hand in the hardest situations if I ask them to.
Tata: You are a lucky person I guess. But don't you think that the virtual world of the Internet is unreal and the friend you find there are unreal as well? And this is what you just want them to be?
Napoleonchik: They are as real as you and me, I've seen them in real life and I've got a lot of presents from them which already did help me through the worst year of my life. I prefer to think about the Internet as the way of communication and not the other world where everybody and everything is an illusion.
Elena Geiko: Napoleonchik, I have a friend who I got to know by correspondence when I was 13, and we only met once when I was 23, but I still consider her one of my best friends. We used to be penpals, and we now keep in touch with the help of the Internet or text messages. I wasn't at all disappointed when I met her, though it was quite an unusual experience
Jane RRR): Napoleonchik ïèøåò: They are as real as you and me I totaly agree that the Internet is not 'another world'. It is just part of ours. It is gradually substituting the 'tradition' to send letters in evelopes:), which has never been considered to be a 'parallel world'. As for me, I also use the Internet to keep in touch with friends, colleagues, etc., and I have seen most of them in real life.
Liliana: One thing is to keep in touch with your friends and another thing is to make friends by Internet. Has the notion of "a friend" been changing of late? Who is a true friend?
Elena Geiko: It definitely has. You may be lonely having dozens of friends in social networks. I don't think being a true friend depends on how long you have known each other. You may keep in touch with your old friends just because of a habit and not to trust them the way you used to long time ago. A true friend for me is someone I feel safe with and I can say anything to.
Jane RRR): I believe the definition of a true friend is so hard to formulate just because there are different categories of friends, different groups of them, so to say. For example, there could be singled out such groups as ‘intimate’, ‘close’ and ‘old’ friends, mere acquaintances, pen pals, ‘friends of friends’, etc.. And it wouldn’t be right to set the same requirements to all of them, in my opinion. How can I expect a pen pal, for instance, to provide me with the same support as I get from an old friend living nearby? In short, if we don’t confuse these ‘categories’, we will not be disappointed by the behaviour of the people we socialise with.
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