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‘Lend money and lose a fiend’.
admin: There is a common saying, ‘Lend money and lose a fiend’. To what extent do you agree or disagree wit it? Do you believe that lending money to friends is most likely to lead to falling out with them? What do you usually do when your friends want to borrow money from you?
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Jane RRR): Frankly speaking, I totally disagree with the idea of the saying. I believe that true friendship is always based on mutual help, which includes financial support if necessary. If you 'help' your friends with 'words' only when they are having a hard time, you can't be called a friend at ll. So, I would rather rephrase the statement in the following way, 'Lend money and help a friend'.
nuxma: In my opinion it depends on situation. Sometimes people borrow money to buy something (e.g. new car, TV) and they don't have a hard time.
Jane RRR): Do you mean that we can lend money to a friend only if they are having a hard time?
nuxma: I think when people lend money they should be ready not to get their money back. The more serious the situation is the more I'm ready to lend.
Jane RRR): nuxma ïèøåò: I think when people lend money they should be ready not to get their money back. That seems reasonable although hard to follow at times. I've heard someone say that you should lend as much money as you can present. Well, I believe that really helps to avoid losing the friend who can't pay back...
admin: nuxma ïèøåò: Sometimes people borrow money to buy something (e.g. new car, TV) and they don't have a hard time. So, is it true then that money should not be lent unless the need is urgent enough?
nuxma: Not exactly. If my friend is in dire need I'll lend him money without doubts but if need is not urgent enough the amount of loan will be depend on how reliable is my friend and how much money I can afford to give away (or to present as Jane RRR) said)
Binkel: I think it is cruel to refuse when a friend asks for money. Sometimes words can't help. But money can.
Elena Geiko: Binkel ïèøåò: it is cruel to refuse when a friend asks for money. I wouldn't always call it 'cruel'. What if I owe another person much more than I'm asked to lend and I'm in need myself?
Binkel: It is OK if you refuse just because you don't have the money. But if you have the sum but and can spare it but recommend your friend to take out a loan from a bank, it is kind of hypocritical. Besides, if you don't believe the friend will pay back, it means you don't trust them. And is friendship possible when there is no trust?
sam: agree with the statement. if u lend money - get ready to give it up. if u can't give it up - u lose friend. if that money means nothing 4 u - how can u lose friend?
Jane RR): I like your way of thinking, Sam:)
Liliana: I would advise you to lend as much money as you are ready to lose. Then you will feel no frustration or heart ache, if your friend or whoever you give it to does not give it back to you. Frankly speaking it's a purely Soviet tradition to borrow money from people rather than get a loan in a bank (just a couple of rubles to last you through the next 3 days before you get your other salary).I think it would come to nobody's head either in Europe or in the US to ask somebody for money just not to perplex or embarrass the one you address.If you are sure you can earn enough to give it back, why not get a loan in a bank? That's what banks are for.
Jane RR): I wonder if there are three roubles' loans, though:)
Liliana: Today 3 roubles will not bring you anywhere, I am afraid.
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